I get bored with girls quickly

tim · Post by **tim** » Tue Jun 14, 2011 5:07 pm

Ever since I broke up with my last girlfriend 2 years ago, this seems to be the pattern. Hang out with a girl for a couple weeks and I'm totally into her. After that, my interest starts to wane quickly. Usually right after they tell me that they like me. I'll go from seeing them or talking to them daily to just once or twice a week (not to be too crass, but mostly just for sex) while simultaneously start dating another girl. Pretty soon the first girl drops off the radar completely and the process starts all over again.

Currently I am dating a girl who is really awesome, but I'm losing interest fast. She's really nerdy, incredibly intelligent, plays bass, is bisexual and is really really hot. Everything I could want, right? I thought so too but I have a date with a new girl tomorrow night (which is a pretty funny and awesome story in and of itself). I knew exactly what was happening when I asked her out but I couldn't stop myself. I'm excited about it but at the same time I feel like an asshole.

I know, I know. Most guys probably don't see this as a problem, but I'd really like to meet someone that can hold me attention and interest indefinitely. Not to mention getting my friends wives to stop hassling me about "settling down."

TroySanders · Post by **TroySanders** » Tue Jun 14, 2011 5:11 pm

Don't date someone until you actually know them and like them as a person. That'll help.

DarkAxel · Post by **DarkAxel** » Tue Jun 14, 2011 5:24 pm

TroySanders wrote:Don't date someone until you actually know them and like them as a person. That'll help.

actually that seems like a great advice to me

ever since i started dating and hooked up with my current GF i've been instantly more happy then ever. Why? Because before we hooked up, i'd known her for more than a year

it's just so much better overall - you know each other at least a bit, s oyou don't get the usual awkwardness, you're both more sure with your behaviour, you don't have to ACT, you can be truly yourselves...

So yeah - try to not date people instantly

btw i'm a guy and i fully support your concern

futuresailors · Post by **futuresailors** » Tue Jun 14, 2011 5:26 pm

TroySanders wrote:Don't date someone until you actually know them and like them as a person. That'll help.

How is the only real post you've ever made in this thread?

Tim, ask girl 1 to join you on date with girl 2.

TroySanders · Post by **TroySanders** » Tue Jun 14, 2011 5:59 pm

futuresailors wrote:
TroySanders wrote:Don't date someone until you actually know them and like them as a person. That'll help.

How is the only real post you've ever made in this thread?

touchy subject

SPACERITUAL · Post by **SPACERITUAL** » Tue Jun 14, 2011 6:29 pm

TroySanders wrote:Don't date someone until you actually know them and like them as a person. That'll help.

This would be good advice if women were actually people.

My two cents on the matter is that you either consciously or unconciously dont want a relationship, and theres nothing wrong with that. I havent had any kind of relationship that wasnt 100% (at least on my end) based on sex in.......well in years. This is not really a problem for me as there are very few women whos company i actually enjoy. People call me a misogynist but i honestly just dont get along with 99% of them. I dont hate them but we always disagree to the point where i just dont even want to look at them anymore, HOWEVER, i am devoid of a great deal of the emotions that make up the accepted idea of a human being, so you actually may relish or enjoy their company, but that doesnt mean you have to date them. If you want to interact with them for their company, do that. If you want to interact with their vagina, do that, but id caution you to make it clear what your expectations and limits are to them. Alot of them wont like it as women always have to have their cake and eat it to and do so love the tired old ultimatum, but contrary to popular belief, you can in fact tell them to go fuck themselves should it come to this. Im of the opinion that if a relationship is going to happen for me its going to walk up to me unannounced and kick me right in the teeth, and until that happens i will neither force nor let myself be forced into anything just to perpetuate a sexual or social exchange. Try it out it may work for you.

TroySanders · Post by **TroySanders** » Tue Jun 14, 2011 8:42 pm

SPACERITUAL wrote:
TroySanders wrote:Don't date someone until you actually know them and like them as a person. That'll help.

This would be good advice if women were actually people.

fuckin lol

McSpunckle · Post by **McSpunckle** » Tue Jun 14, 2011 8:47 pm

Date a dude. Imagine getting blowjobs between playing video games with yer bro.

Ladybros don't count, because they're always not quite bros.

ashdown · Post by **ashdown** » Tue Jun 14, 2011 9:10 pm

McSpunckle wrote:Date a dude. Imagine getting blowjobs between playing video games with yer bro.

Ladybros don't count, because they're always not quite bros.

when girls try to become bros i always find it kinda funny

culturejam · Post by **culturejam** » Tue Jun 14, 2011 9:24 pm

tim wrote: Not to mention getting my friends wives to stop hassling me about "settling down."

You should settle down when you're good and ready. Your friends' house hens can shut their pie holes.

But back to your quandary.

I think step one is to figure out what it is that you are looking for that only a "new girl" can provide. Perhaps you are infatuated with being infatuated. Or maybe you are "addicted" to the excitement of first getting to know someone (both intellectually and sexually). I went through a phase of each of those when I was in college.

If you can figure out what it is you're hung up on, you can probably figure out an easy way around it. Assuming you want to, of course.

Tigerbass · Post by **Tigerbass** » Tue Jun 14, 2011 9:33 pm

"It's not the kill...it's the thrill of the chase." Ian Gillan

nieh · Post by **nieh** » Tue Jun 14, 2011 10:39 pm

futuresailors wrote:Tim, ask girl 1 to join you on date with girl 2.

MEC · Post by **MEC** » Tue Jun 14, 2011 10:59 pm

Christopher · Post by **Christopher** » Tue Jun 14, 2011 11:18 pm

MiddleEarthCrisis wrote:

tim · Post by **tim** » Tue Jun 14, 2011 11:44 pm

McSpunckle wrote:Date a dude.

This will not be happening.

There has been exactly one girl I've dated in these past 2 years that was an exception to the rule. She moved to New York City last year but we still talk regularly and visit one another whenever possible. And there's another girl I've been secretly in love with for years, and I'm not one with a propensity toward that sort of behavior and those kinds of feelings. She lives in Pittsburgh. So I know there are women out there who are more than capable of not only keeping me monogamous but actually excited about the idea for more than two weeks. I just don't think they live in Dayton, OH. Plus Dayton is a really small city, which only further complicates matters. The threat of running into the wrong person at a social function is ever present (and has happened to me multiple times).

futuresailors wrote:Tim, ask girl 1 to join you on date with girl 2.

I know you're joking, but this is actually a really good idea for first dates with all girls involved (the more the better). However, in this particular situation Girl 2 would not handle this well. Girl 1 would be into it, but she's already attracted to me so that wouldn't help me.

culturejam wrote:
tim wrote: Not to mention getting my friends wives to stop hassling me about "settling down."

You should settle down when you're good and ready. Your friends' house hens can shut their pie holes.

I tell them this all the time but their nagging never ends, and if they treat me like that then I can only imagine what their husbands have to deal with. Pretty much does the opposite of making me want to be with one person for the long haul.

culturejam wrote:If you can figure out what it is you're hung up on, you can probably figure out an easy way around it. Assuming you want to, of course.

My standards are high. I want someone who is exceptional and refuse to settle for anything less. Sometimes it just feels like I'm being harsh and unfair. Not always, but sometimes (like now).

Tigerbass wrote:"It's not the kill...it's the thrill of the chase." Ian Gillan

Of course this has a lot to do with it, too.

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