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Family obligations can get tedious. I feel petty about my concerns with mine when I hear about yours. Hang in there buddies

Willy, it's lame but I'm sure you'll find a new opportunity soon.

To everyone else, I just want to say that I read through every of your venting posts. I do not always reply, or offer more than a huggy emoji, but the heart is there. I'm always there if any of you needs to reach to another human. We have lost enough in our own internet family lately

Agree with D'arcy. I might not respond to all of y'all, but this is my most frequently visited thread. I read and feel with everyone of you. Take care

odontophobia wrote:

DRodriguez wrote:I fucking hate the holidays. My parents use it as a battle between the two of them to try and get us to see each other, my siblings are no help. It always falls on me to tell everyone no and to try and get some sort of compromise between everyone. And all I get is disappointed reactions and guilt trips from everyone. I always think about it, but this might be the last year I put all this effort into continuing everyone's delusions about the reality of the family.

I know invisible man can relate because he and i both have crazy mothers....

but i feel like this is my schtick every year. or, moreover, i'm the only one who will give an actual opinion to my mother while everybody else ignores her. then i take the brunt of her frustrations on like some badge of honor.

so tired of trying to dance around everybody else's lives...

Hahaha came to say this. I give up on that stuff...my sanity is worth something. I know you've got kid(s), odontophobia...let's make a pact to give them the magic and attention they deserve rather than the shit sandwich we got. DRod, too. Just because no one else is a referee doesn't mean we need to take that job on.

Invisible Man wrote:

odontophobia wrote:

DRodriguez wrote:I fucking hate the holidays. My parents use it as a battle between the two of them to try and get us to see each other, my siblings are no help. It always falls on me to tell everyone no and to try and get some sort of compromise between everyone. And all I get is disappointed reactions and guilt trips from everyone. I always think about it, but this might be the last year I put all this effort into continuing everyone's delusions about the reality of the family.

I know invisible man can relate because he and i both have crazy mothers....

but i feel like this is my schtick every year. or, moreover, i'm the only one who will give an actual opinion to my mother while everybody else ignores her. then i take the brunt of her frustrations on like some badge of honor.

so tired of trying to dance around everybody else's lives...

Hahaha came to say this. I give up on that stuff...my sanity is worth something. I know you've got kid(s), odontophobia...let's make a pact to give them the magic and attention they deserve rather than the shit sandwich we got. DRod, too. Just because no one else is a referee doesn't mean we need to take that job on.

Sounds eerily familiar.
I'm the only one that engages my mum when she drinks and calls her bullshit out for what it is, usually ends up in me ruining everyone's day.
You get over it, but sometimes, when they're wrong... and so very wrong, it can be hard to just let some things through to the keeper.

Invisible Man wrote:

odontophobia wrote:

DRodriguez wrote:I fucking hate the holidays. My parents use it as a battle between the two of them to try and get us to see each other, my siblings are no help. It always falls on me to tell everyone no and to try and get some sort of compromise between everyone. And all I get is disappointed reactions and guilt trips from everyone. I always think about it, but this might be the last year I put all this effort into continuing everyone's delusions about the reality of the family.

I know invisible man can relate because he and i both have crazy mothers....

but i feel like this is my schtick every year. or, moreover, i'm the only one who will give an actual opinion to my mother while everybody else ignores her. then i take the brunt of her frustrations on like some badge of honor.

so tired of trying to dance around everybody else's lives...

Hahaha came to say this. I give up on that stuff...my sanity is worth something. I know you've got kid(s), odontophobia...let's make a pact to give them the magic and attention they deserve rather than the shit sandwich we got. DRod, too. Just because no one else is a referee doesn't mean we need to take that job on.

First kiddo is now about a month old. Meeting my parents for the first time this weekend.

Tough. There are days when I want to be on the other side of the country so I need not deal with my folks at all.

On the other hand, they can be great people...

Same. I can deal with my parents but it's very hard sometimes. I love my mom probably more than any human ever. I love my dad too, but he also has the worst possible political and social beliefs. Racist, homophobic, xenophobic, conspiracy theorist--you name it. To boot he's often rude to servers and other people he finds somehow ineffective, which humiliates me to my core. He had a horrible childhood, so I can't help but forgive him sometimes for his persistently pugilistic outlook. Sometime I can't though.

Last year at Christmas we had an epic screaming match over a ton of things, but mainly years of the of constant walking on eggshells and him not curbing his getting tipsy and antagonistic around me, his non-drinker son who undoubtedly inherited a drinking problem from him.

So anyway. I feel y'all. And can't say it enough--I'm endlessly appreciative of the support this community of fuzzbreax gives.

found a new beer I like, a fancy beer even, I'm normally a basic ass beer guy, and the fucking thing gives me hives!

Popvulture: the phrase 'walking on eggshells' is dead-on...also the name of a book about personality disorders recommended by MSUsousaphone last year (he's a mental health counselor, I think). Some good stuff in there.

Oh I remember y'all mentioning that...I'd love to find out the name. Will fish around for it when I'm back home and not in my phone. Is it wrong of me to think that book sounds oddly fun?

One thing that drives me crazy is the "new post" feature on the mobile version of ILF. Some threads take me back weeks even though they've been read.

odontophobia wrote:One thing that drives me crazy is the "new post" feature on the mobile version of ILF. Some threads take me back weeks even though they've been read.

If only I could get my hands on the forum code.

But really, I have so many nitpick things that Id love to change on the forum that I've given up on mentioning it.

Thanks y'all. I'm feeling better now. I just really needed to vent a bit. Still hate the holidays though.

Disarm D'arcy wrote:To everyone else, I just want to say that I read through every of your venting posts. I do not always reply, or offer more than a huggy emoji, but the heart is there. I'm always there if any of you needs to reach to another human. We have lost enough in our own internet family lately

This.

Invisible Man wrote:https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/188 ... eggshells_

Gracias!

it occurred to me the other day, after reading about PsychicVampire's untimely passing, that since i don't have any friends here in Charlottesville to keep track nobody here would know if i died.