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sooooooooo.... was talking to some friends the other day, and one grrL about my age tittered about how she was very NAUGHTY wearing some saucy underwear or something. now, i'm a pretty simple guy with simple tastes. but.... fucking UNDERWEAR is the height of your sexual creativity?

trying to have the conversation of "um. wow. are you from...... the fifties?" with my bud made me wonder about at what point do you cross over into being a [whatever term for that fetish]? like, sure, i've pleasured myself or others whilst (fucking LOVE that word) looking at or thinking about furry porn, but i wouldn't consider myself a furry by any means. i've had people scream at me in German whilst (again, BEAUTIFUL word) doing sorta mean things to my bum, but i'm not really into S&M. i've had threeways and fourways but i'm DEFINITELY not poly-amorous. i'm pretty normal about sexin's stuff. would NOT consider myself a freaky dooder at'all.

but at what point do you cross over from enjoying getting pegged once in awhile to being classified as a Submissive Anal Enthusiast? if it's S&M stuff, is it when you start planning an actual dungeon that you are fully into dominance play? if it's furry stuff is it when you buy your first Mickey Mouse With The Dick-Hole Cut Out Suit? are there a minimum number of conventions one must attend to consider themselves a legit member of that genital based phyle?

murrrrrrr?

hmmmm

i always say that it's only kinky if you do it more than twice.

theactionindex wrote:

behndy wrote:Submissive Anal Enthusiast?

well played.

I don't know, man. It's hard for me to have a strong opinion on this, because even though I'm extremely tolerant of other people's kinks, I'm a very vanilla kinda guy when it comes to doin the dirties. I tend to think that those -phile or -ist or whatever labels should only really be applied when they become your primary, or at least preferred means of getting off. If it's just a once-in-a-while thing to add some spice, then that's all it is.

It's shit like this, behndy.

I think that the definition of a fetish is when it becomes necessary, or at least mostly so, in order to climax. So, texbook definition, that.

Contemporary definition, I'm going to make a formula for just this.

Fo= Number of fetish occurrences within a set time period. 3 months is a solid gauge time.
d= total number of sexual encounters, including masturbation within the same time period as f. Again, 3 months is good.
(Note: f and d may both be estimated or rounded.)
s= Shame for the fetish act on average, on a 1-10 scale. Note that this is a parabolic factor, and that being shameless has the same outcome as completely shameful.
k= Kink Konstant. It is always 5.
Ff= Fetish Factor result.

The result is a scale with an absolute maximum of 5, which is the most Fetishy one can be. For a more purist scale, the Shame (*[s^2]) may be removed entirely, though it isn't recommended.

Jesus Christ. I just created a formula to determine kinkiness.

I'm going to go think about my life and then go to sleep.

i....... am very proud of you right now. and happy for your grrL.

also, now i'm going to think about Lurch next time i'm getting pegged. and i am OOOOOOOOOKAY with that.

I like the IEatCats formula although I'm not sure climax is necessary.
I think if it's a necessary condition, you have to say you belong to that group. If you need to get flogged to have a good time, you're a flogging fetishist. If you have to disclose something before starting a relationship with a new partner, you're probably kinky. Beyond that, labels are probably all optional.

I've definitely been turned on by scenes that I don't want to actually participate in and I've had and enjoyed scenes that weren't previously part of nor did they become incorporated into my fantasy life. That's probably true of most people who've had a full sexual life.

To quote a friend, “Once is experimentation, twice is perversion.”

MM

"three is Now It's Necessary incorporation?"

bigchiefbc wrote: I tend to think that those -phile or -ist or whatever labels should only really be applied when they become your primary, or at least preferred means of getting off.

Yepp, this is the technical definition of a paraphilia.

Murrrr?

I'm disappointed that this isn't about behndover selling out to a major label.

As far as the other stuff goes. If she has a pretty face it's missionary, if it's a pretty butt you go doggystyle. Anything else means you're a sick pervert.

Haki wrote:
As far as the other stuff goes. If she has a pretty face it's missionary, if it's a pretty butt you go doggystyle. Anything else means you're a sick pervert.

What if you want to watch her pretty face grinded into the wall while pounding her pretty butt? WHAT THEN?


Honestly I have done a.....lot of fucked up shit sexually. I facefucked a paraplegic....i pissed on a native american chick.....ive tied a black girl up and whipped her and made her call me master (bday present)...there are men i find as attractive as some women (and honestly the men im attracted to are for far less superficial reasons)....blood and gore and nazi outfits turn me on but i also like slow and affectionate stuff. I honestly cant define my sexuality by earthly terms...it seems really limiting. If i had to verbally define it id call myself ASTROSEXUAL. This basically means that anything in the universe that gets my dick hard can count on getting fucked at some point.