gordian knot wrote:
My take on it might be a little different. What I find telling is that she is cognizant that she's attempting to manipulate people (and for ego gratification no less) and that this is so ingrained in her that she assumes others (Dwarfcraft in this case) have the same motives.
My thoughts too. That's always the worst when someone is in denial to the extent that they put energy into projecting it onto others.
It's like there's a grain of self awareness that you've done something wrong, but then it's instantly buried by the fact that the 'bad guy' is also doing it, which of course is way worse, because they're the 'bad guy'. Although the fact that they're
not actually doing anything wrong -but you think they are- is what's causing this weird cognitive dissonance in the first place.
I think no matter who you are, who you
were, what your upbringing was like, where you come from, your race, gender, sexual orientation... that kind of dissonant thinking, that complete lack of acknowledgment that you fucked up, or that your behaviour and opinions might well be wrong, is a major, if not
the root cause of becoming a complete arsehole.
And then what compounds it is when people call you out on it, which isn't pleasant. It can be belittling and embarassing, and feel like an attack, because in part that's what is is, because it's had to come to that, and so it's all the more difficult to see any truth in what they're saying. It's easier to just say "haters be hatin" and bury your head in the sand.
I only just read through this thread a week or so ago, and while I'm familiar with the drama that can often be associated Devi, I've got to say that in the past sometimes she's been right, and has only spoken out defensively, and so the drama wasn't of her making. However... this whole thing
is entirely on her, she is the one in the wrong, and subsequently the cause of the ensuing and escalating drama. If the whole Console Kickstarter incident was what started this avalanche of ego I hope she can look back to that time and address the root cause, and over time, sort things out, acknowledge being in the wrong, and hopefully make amends.
