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Posted: **Wed Sep 12, 2012 11:08 pm**

phantasmagorovich wrote:...have a long talk with your girl.

Posted: **Wed Sep 12, 2012 11:14 pm**

So, no real updates, but it looks like I really fucked up. This is mostly speculation still.

I hope I didn't fuck this up.

Posted: **Wed Sep 12, 2012 11:31 pm**

jfrey wrote:
phantasmagorovich wrote:
alexa. wrote:
jfrey wrote:My friend Sarah put it in my head that I should leave my girlfriend and date this other friend of ours - who I already was liking a little too much and had decided I should just avoid. I dismissed it at first, but now I'm thinking about this girl all the time. I've barely slept in days.

I agree with your friend ^^
Go talk to her.. and if you feel butterflies and all floaty and happy but you really have no idea why - marry her

^^
Worst advice ever.

Go talk to that girl and find out what you really feel. If you decide your girlfriend is way more awesome despite not having any novelty bonus, marry her. But it is blatant that you keep coming up with some girls at work or now this one that you think about. There is something wrong there. Maybe it's time to be honest with yourself and afterwards have a long talk with your girl.

Well, it's the same girl. The friend of ours also works with us. My current relationship isn't going that great right now, but I feel like I'm obligated to wait and see if things get better. It's not that there's much bad, it's just not much great either. I feel like my girlfriend has just gotten like comfortable so she doesn't really put effort into herself or the relationship anymore.

That part I made bold is important.
Nothing will get better if you wait for it to fix itself.
You have to try. You have to communicate and try. Waiting won't solve anything.
If there is another girl around, use it as motivation to fix things more. It's perfectly normal to have wandering eyes. There are lots of cool people around, but hopefully your girlfriend is cooler.

I am much too young to give this advice, but about 6 months ago I ruined a 4 year relationship. If I had really tried instead of waiting, I would more likely than not still be in that relationship. Don't do the same thing as me.

Posted: **Wed Sep 12, 2012 11:51 pm**

Fuzzy Picklez wrote:That part I made bold is important.
Nothing will get better if you wait for it to fix itself.
You have to try. You have to communicate and try. Waiting won't solve anything.
If there is another girl around, use it as motivation to fix things more. It's perfectly normal to have wandering eyes. There are lots of cool people around, but hopefully your girlfriend is cooler.

I am much too young to give this advice, but about 6 months ago I ruined a 4 year relationship. If I had really tried instead of waiting, I would more likely than not still be in that relationship. Don't do the same thing as me.

Okay, I know this wasn't pointed at me, but it actually just helped me a lot in dealing with losing my mind tonight. It's also just genuinely good advice.

Posted: **Thu Sep 13, 2012 1:15 am**

Okay, so basically, Kate and I got into an argument last night, and I was a douche. It was an argument that didn't have to happen, that I started. She got off the line crying, and I thought we would talk today. She texted me once at 5:30pm today saying she was having a rough day and needed space. No "I love you" or anything, just that. That's all I've heard from her today. Now it's 1:12am, and I haven't heard from her since. I'm worried that she won't call to say goodnight (we have literally not missed a single night in nearly 4 years), which might be a red flag that I really fucked up, and that she's breaking up with me (or will soon). This situation has almost never happened in the past, and when it did, some serious shit was about to go down. Last time it was a breakup. I'm really worried. I'm REALLY worried.

Or maybe she's just having a really terrible day, and it at a friend's dorm trying to unwind. Maybe nothing's wrong with us, and she just wanted to be with friends and de-stress. Maybe there isn't anything that's going to happen between us, and we'll be fine. But I won't know until she calls, if she does.

I'm worried. This girl is my best friend, and I really don't want to have fucked this up over a stupid argument.

Posted: **Thu Sep 13, 2012 3:15 am**

3:12 am. No call. I can't sleep. My brain is pounding. I called a suicide help line to have someone to talk to (my thoughts are overwhelming me, I don't know how to handle it, and I can't stop it), and my phone disconnected so I gave up. I'm hearing murmurs of conversation in rooms where there are no people. I think I'm on the verge of a psychotic break. I don't know what to make of myself as a person.

I think I need to get some help. I'm going to try to sleep. This is probably two separate things that are just really meshed together right now.

Posted: **Thu Sep 13, 2012 3:43 am**

I hope you're doing ok man. Wake up a friend and have them hang with you if that's an option.

Posted: **Thu Sep 13, 2012 3:51 am**

Call a friend man.

Posted: **Thu Sep 13, 2012 6:03 am**

It's 6am. She didn't call. I just woke back up all of a sudden. I don't know when I managed to actually get to sleep. I'm still worried sick.

I feel really miserable right now.

Posted: **Thu Sep 13, 2012 6:59 am**

1:01 AM: "oh hey dude, we need you to grab some sound gear and drive three states away for 6 pm tonight."

Looks like I'm sleeping on a couch once I finish this massive pile of work, get some rush hour highway cruising in... and then go up for an evening shoot.
:thumb:

Posted: **Thu Sep 13, 2012 7:08 am**

She texted me. She's talking to me, but it's flat and distant. No I love yous. Just short answers. When I asked if we're okay, she said "I don't know. We have to talk at some point today."

I don't think I'm going to be sleeping anytime soon.

Posted: **Thu Sep 13, 2012 7:47 am**

DUDE CHILL THE FUCK OUT NOW

Posted: **Thu Sep 13, 2012 7:52 am**

alexa. wrote:DUDE CHILL THE FUCK OUT NOW

viewtopic.php?f=42&t=13241&p=496176#p496176

This was, in part, a calculated effort on her part to drive me crazy for a day. I'm in love with an evil mastermind who knows how to drive a point home.

Posted: **Thu Sep 13, 2012 7:55 am**

IEatCats wrote:
alexa. wrote:DUDE CHILL THE FUCK OUT NOW

http://ilovefuzz.com/viewtopic.php?f=42 ... 76#p496176

This was, in part, a calculated effort on her part to drive me crazy for a day. I'm in love with an evil mastermind who knows how to drive a point home.

Evil masterminds are the best :lol: