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psychic vampire. wrote:

UglyCasanova wrote:I personally don't see the appeal, but I think it might be somewhat based on my geographical location. Marriage seemed to die out with my parents' generation. My friends who have been in long relationships and even have kids, they honestly don't think about marriage. My thesis is that it's based on religion, or rather non-religion, as our demographic consists of +70% non-believers. Marriage is traditionally thought of as a Christian value here, a pact with God. Something most people might shy away from. And I would definitely rather spend the money on pedals

We do have something similar to marriage here, but I don't know the word for it. It just gives you the economical privileges that come from a marriage, but it has nothing to do with the church. It's state business. Socialism, amirite?

Edit: just what oscillateur said about Japan!

But ultimately, it's each to their own. If you think it might end up being the best day of your life, you can't put a price tag on that!

Not just generational or loctation: i am glad for all the gays i know who want to get married and finally can, but the cynical anti-authoritarian in me just sees gay marriage as an other manifestation of gayness being recuperated into the fold of normative structures and dynamics yadda yadda yadda the state blah blah religion. Also i was sent to a one gender catholic school as a kid.
Would get married to prevent my estranged family from trying to get involved if i was dying.

Also love a good party sometimes, because i am a mediocre but very confident dancer. And actually the last wedding i went to was a great night, until my uncle got into two fist fights.

monkeydancer wrote:

psychic vampire. wrote:

UglyCasanova wrote:I personally don't see the appeal, but I think it might be somewhat based on my geographical location. Marriage seemed to die out with my parents' generation. My friends who have been in long relationships and even have kids, they honestly don't think about marriage. My thesis is that it's based on religion, or rather non-religion, as our demographic consists of +70% non-believers. Marriage is traditionally thought of as a Christian value here, a pact with God. Something most people might shy away from. And I would definitely rather spend the money on pedals

We do have something similar to marriage here, but I don't know the word for it. It just gives you the economical privileges that come from a marriage, but it has nothing to do with the church. It's state business. Socialism, amirite?

Edit: just what oscillateur said about Japan!

But ultimately, it's each to their own. If you think it might end up being the best day of your life, you can't put a price tag on that!

Not just generational or loctation: i am glad for all the gays i know who want to get married and finally can, but the cynical anti-authoritarian in me just sees gay marriage as an other manifestation of gayness being recuperated into the fold of normative structures and dynamics yadda yadda yadda the state blah blah religion. Also i was sent to a one gender catholic school as a kid.
Would get married to prevent my estranged family from trying to get involved if i was dying.

Also love a good party sometimes, because i am a mediocre but very confident dancer. And actually the last wedding i went to was a great night, until my uncle got into two fist fights.

I tooootally get where you're coming from but I'm definitely in the "getting married because fuck you" crowd (if I end up in a marriage type relationship with a man..). The sadness of boring conservatives is too delicious a fruit.

psychic vampire. wrote: Also love a good party sometimes, because i am a mediocre but very confident dancer. And actually the last wedding i went to was a great night, until my uncle got into two fist fights.

jwar wrote: If you find out your spouse is cheating, kick their fucking ass.

jwar wrote:I just found out that a friend of my wife is getting divorced. They have four kids and have been together I believe a decade. I would feel sad about it but apparently they both have been cheating on each other.

Moral of the story. If you can't be a one man/woman person, or have an open relationship (yea right like those work! hahahaha), then don't tie that knot. If you find out your spouse is cheating, kick their fucking ass. If it's something you can work past, which in cases it can be, then that's awesome. Most people can't though and are repeat cheaters.

I'm happily married though. My wife drives me insane sometimes and I want to kick her in the butt, but we get each other. She's my rock and I'm hers. If I didn't have any other friends in the world (and lately it's seeming that way), it wouldn't matter as long as I have her.

Now if I lose her ever, I don't know what I'd do. Thank God for my children. They make everything so much better.

jwar wrote:I didn't mean literally. Good God.

Wes Mantooth wrote:

jwar wrote:I didn't mean literally. Good God.

Yeah I was pretty sure it was a typo by omission or just misinterpreted by me because that seemed very out-of-character for you and really anyone here.