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Re: Marriage
Posted: Sun Mar 13, 2016 6:19 pm
by D.o.S.
Casavettes wrote:
Aw man, I have all the feels right now.
You guys wanna crash my wedding?
Dangerous.
Weddings are super fun, though. I wish more of my friends would get married -- selfishly, b/c they're great parties.
Re: Marriage
Posted: Mon Mar 14, 2016 5:39 am
by hbombgraphics
Been married for almost 15 years now,
best thing I have have ever done,
There are some things I would have changed about the ceremony knowing what I know now,
but it was a special day.
Where in upstate are you getting hitched?
Re: Marriage
Posted: Mon Mar 14, 2016 6:33 am
by daseb
two and a bit years married, lived together for a couple years before that, been together nearly seven years total I guess? Got a baby boy now who's two weeks old in a couple of hours.
Being married to her is the best thing that ever happened to me. Our wedding was fun AF. My dog was my best (wo)man, hers was her flower girl, and our foster dog at the time was in the bridal party wearing a little tuxedo. She walked down the aisle to Dinosaur Jr, we got everyone to boo when our celebrant had to read out the government required thing about MARRIAGE ONLY BEING BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN (yep that's a law here) and drew names out of a hat for people to witness the certificate.
We are super, super lucky in that the building her mum owns has a venue on the roof and a little gallery in the basement, so we had it all there. Basement was just a huge party with ipod playlist and our dogs running around scamming food from everyone. I did my speech while pulling Rollins poses and running around with a wireless mic. Definitely one of the best days of my life. If we didn't have all that probably would've just done it in a park and baked a bunch of food or something and got everyone to bring their dogs. A lot of my friends aren't the wedding kinda type and still say ours was fun which makes me pretty stoked.
Do what the two of you want. It's your day and you shouldn't have to bow to pleasing others.
Re: Marriage
Posted: Mon Mar 14, 2016 7:44 am
by Iommic Pope
I didn't cry because I was getting a migraine and luckily my brother-in-law's partner always had endo's on hand.
Unfortunately that made me a bit spacey and detached from the day, but I remember fondly how over the moon my wife was that day, which made all the skepticism I had about cost vs. worth fade away.
I was looking at pictures of our wedding the other night and she looked so happy.
I mean, I would have been happy to just continue doing life shit with her, either way, ring, no ring, whatever, nothing really changes after you say some words and sign a piece of paper. but I think it was worth it just to give her a day of joy.
Re: Marriage
Posted: Mon Mar 14, 2016 8:20 am
by Strange Tales
D.o.S. wrote:Casavettes wrote:
Aw man, I have all the feels right now.
You guys wanna crash my wedding?
Dangerous.
Weddings are super fun, though. I wish more of my friends would get married -- selfishly, b/c they're great parties.
Wish I went to more weddings/parties, but all of my friends are even worse than me in this regard.
Re: Marriage
Posted: Mon Mar 14, 2016 11:38 am
by echoraven
daseb wrote:...we got everyone to boo when our celebrant had to read out the government required thing about MARRIAGE ONLY BEING BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN (yep that's a law here)..
I was planning on typing something but after reading this I'm utterly dumbfounded. Where did you get married? (if you don't mind me asking)
Re: Marriage
Posted: Mon Mar 14, 2016 11:54 am
by D.o.S.
'Straya somewhere, I presume.
Re: Marriage
Posted: Mon Mar 14, 2016 12:24 pm
by neonblack
I went to the biggest sham wedding yesterday.
The bride is my sister in law, and she's basically being blackmailed into marrying this guy. She moved in with him and started spending his money recklessly and then they decided they were getting married. A couple weeks later she tried to back out and he threatened to sue her over all the money she spent.
So the bride was crying (not from joy) through the whole thing, the photographer had to tell the groom to smile about 100 times and the wedding planner had no tact at all. We haven't seen our nephews in like a year and we were holding them keeping them calm before they walked down the aisle (they're 2 and 3) and this lady comes up and says to get to our seats and they can't start without us, so I told her nicely to walk away from me. She said we were disturbing the wedding and if she had to tell us again, she was going to have to ask us to leave. My wife said "I'm going to have to ask you to fucking leave." It was almost a big fiasco. The wedding lasted about 10 minutes and then nobody knew what to do because the wedding planner was getting drunk. It was a $4500 shit show.
This obviously isn't indicative of normal weddings. Just seemed like the right place to share.
Re: Marriage
Posted: Mon Mar 14, 2016 12:46 pm
by D.o.S.
Kbit and I will have a much nicer sham wedding and you're all invited.
Re: Marriage
Posted: Mon Mar 14, 2016 2:56 pm
by univalve
A bit over 7 years married.
Do it, if she is the one for you.
Re: Marriage
Posted: Mon Mar 14, 2016 9:31 pm
by Pete
I'm 27 and the thought of marriage feels WAY out there in the future for me, if it happens. I feel bad for single people who want kids. Much more pressure to settle down sooner rather than later. But I don't want kids, so I don't have to worry about that.

Re: Marriage
Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2016 3:40 am
by snipelfritz
Pete wrote:I'm 27 and the thought of marriage feels WAY out there in the future for me, if it happens. I feel bad for single people who want kids. Much more pressure to settle down sooner rather than later. But I don't want kids, so I don't have to worry about that.

partying with you, brother.
But feel free to invite me to crash any of your weddings. I've done it before and I'll do it again.

Re: Marriage
Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2016 5:27 am
by daseb
D.o.S. wrote:'Straya somewhere, I presume.
yup, total bullshit law here.
Re: Marriage
Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2016 12:22 pm
by Wes Mantooth
snipelfritz wrote:Pete wrote:I'm 27 and the thought of marriage feels WAY out there in the future for me, if it happens. I feel bad for single people who want kids. Much more pressure to settle down sooner rather than later. But I don't want kids, so I don't have to worry about that.

partying with you, brother.
But feel free to invite me to crash any of your weddings. I've done it before and I'll do it again.

Right there with you guys. If someone offered me a free vasectomy today, I'd take it. If I find I want kids down the line, there's thousands upon thousands that need to be adopted.
I like weddings but doubt I'll ever get married as the thought of having to maintain a relationship like that fills me to the brim with anxiety.
Re: Marriage
Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2016 7:39 pm
by Iommic Pope
daseb wrote:D.o.S. wrote:'Straya somewhere, I presume.
yup, total bullshit law here.
BUT PLEBISCITE.