humancertainty wrote:I agree that three months is fair game, although Darren appears to agree, too.
Not the biggest believer in monogamy of committed relationships, either.
Not cool to be chasing your friend's ex, though. At the very least, not for a long time. I've hooked up with friend's exes but it was a long time after the fact. Except once, but I fucked up.
I don't judge a girl by her sexual past. Even if she has been with friends of mine before. Don't care how many people she has slept with. I take the situation for what it is and leave it at that.
Don't want to lecture or seem PC as I am most certainly not into either, but feel obligated to say that referring to women with derogatory terms based on their promiscuity is a shitty thing to do. Especially when men aren't held to the same standards.
Off the soapbox now. Carry on.
The discussion of "slut shaming", as horrible as that word is, is going round at the moment. People are starting to stand up for people's sexual decisions, which is great. I don't agree with hurting others as part of your habits—I'm very sensitive to these things and it even hurts when I see made up infidelity on TV—but I recognize that not a lot of others see a problem with sleeping around carefree. That's their opinion; I have mine. I don't mind people doing whatever they want as long as it doesn't affect others. Then again, I don't like seeing people hurt themselves through sexual promiscuity, but that's their choice to make and I shouldn't judge them or call them names. Of course, no one here is doing that, but you know what I mean. I prefer if people led monogamous lives, both men and women, young and old, but I shouldn't push my agenda on others, so I don't. Explaining
my lifestyle is not forcing others to concede and follow. I'm just expressing myself like I would if I said I prefer the Nolan Batman movies to the 1980's ones. I'm not saying the 80's films were bad, just that I prefer the modern-day ones.