Fri Jul 13, 2018 1:13 pm
Fri Jul 13, 2018 1:15 pm
BetterOffShred wrote:Let's not pretend that there aren't companies that specifically target women as their customer base, in the process alienating men.
Fri Jul 13, 2018 1:19 pm
Mudfuzz wrote:Your example is just holdover 50's marketing that is still around because old ideas still work on people that don't think for themselves enough. please try harder.
Fri Jul 13, 2018 1:26 pm
Fri Jul 13, 2018 1:39 pm
misterstomach wrote:Yeah, but it's not like plumbing, or whatever, has historically excluded or ignored men and minimized their contributions to the field. The context isn't quite as loaded.
Fri Jul 13, 2018 2:02 pm
Fri Jul 13, 2018 2:34 pm
Fri Jul 13, 2018 3:41 pm
aens_wife wrote:I am probably going to regret saying anything BUT
IT ISN"T ABOUT THE FUCKING JOKE. I like dirty jokes. A lot. But I don't make them everywhere, with all people, right? I edit myself for my audience (as almost all of us do) because I don't need to make people around me uncomfortable.
So when a company makes a "joke" like this with a product, what they are saying is that they don't give a fuck who is uncomfortable with said joke. That generally shakes out to them not caring about women's thoughts on this stuff. Sure, some women don't care. But everyone knows that *some* women do care. A lot. By making these jokes, companies are telling women that they do not prioritize them as customers - that they want the men who will laugh at that joke more than they want the women who will not.
Again, I am not a prude and if someone made this joke in person to me, I would likely laugh. But I don't appreciate this kind of marketing which is KNOWN to alienate women and attract certain types of dudes. This isn't rocket science or some kind of conspiracy to end all sex jokes, guys. It's pretty basic and lines up directly with how lots of dudes treat me (and other women I know) in this industry.
Fri Jul 13, 2018 5:16 pm
Ugly Nora wrote:dubkitty wrote:the thing i find striking about all this, ESPECIALLY in the TGP thread, is just how ready a whole lot of men are to mansplain to women what they can be offended by. seems kinda presumptuous to me.
Dubs, isn't the inverse also true though? Who is anyone to to tell anyone else that they should be offended? My girlfriend is not offended by this, she thinks people who are offended by it are ridiculous. So, are you or any of the guys here, or women here, or around the world going to explain to her why she should be offended? Why does your opinion matter more than hers?
In summary, i am not advocating for people to be offended or not be offended. But rather that everyone stop jamming their own values down other peoples throats 24 hours a day.
Fri Jul 13, 2018 5:56 pm
infamousalien wrote:Ah yes straight to the nazi thing. The official response of soy boys who have no argument.
Fri Jul 13, 2018 6:03 pm
Fri Jul 13, 2018 6:10 pm
theavondon wrote:infamousalien wrote:Ah yes straight to the nazi thing. The official response of soy boys who have no argument.
lmao this dude seriously just used this term
Y'ALL.
Fri Jul 13, 2018 7:00 pm
Fri Jul 13, 2018 7:07 pm
bennroe wrote:Ugly Nora wrote:dubkitty wrote:the thing i find striking about all this, ESPECIALLY in the TGP thread, is just how ready a whole lot of men are to mansplain to women what they can be offended by. seems kinda presumptuous to me.
Dubs, isn't the inverse also true though? Who is anyone to to tell anyone else that they should be offended? My girlfriend is not offended by this, she thinks people who are offended by it are ridiculous. So, are you or any of the guys here, or women here, or around the world going to explain to her why she should be offended? Why does your opinion matter more than hers?
In summary, i am not advocating for people to be offended or not be offended. But rather that everyone stop jamming their own values down other peoples throats 24 hours a day.
It really isn't about being offended at all, and--even if it were--I very much doubt anyone here would tell your girlfriend she should feel offended by it. That would be bizarre. It's also not about one person's opinions mattering more than another's, though it baffles me that you think spreading the word that you're offended by something is an example of jamming your values down people's throats, but that saying an offensive thing on a public platform isn't. I'm not easily offended, but I do believe that all people should be free to pursue their interests without being made to feel they're not welcome. As a dude, I've never been asked by a guitar store clerk if I'm shopping for a partner, or otherwise treated like I didn't belong there, but lots and lots of women have. If your girlfriend can't relate to that experience, that's awesome; maybe even a sign of progress. Maybe she's not involved in traditional rock instrumentation, or maybe she's just been really lucky about where she's shopped. Has she never experienced condescension from a mechanic? Has she been lucky enough to escape sexism in every aspect of her life? Either way, it doesn't diminish the fact that many women have been treated badly and made to feel they didn't belong, in this industry as well as in many others. The phrase "pussy melter" doesn't need to make you blush for you to recognize that it perpetuates a closed door that many would-be guitarists have encountered just for being women.
Fri Jul 13, 2018 7:10 pm
dubkitty wrote:i would reply to Nora, but bennroe pretty much said everything i would say better than i would have done. thanks!
that was one of the appalling things on the TGP thread, people using "soy boys" seriously.