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Re: Help me move my friends resting place

PostPosted: Fri Nov 24, 2017 11:02 pm
by dubkitty
how do i donate?

Re: Help me move my friends resting place

PostPosted: Fri Nov 24, 2017 11:11 pm
by MEC
dubkitty wrote:how do i donate?

https://www.gofundme.com/nrmjsd-help-me-lay-my-friend-to-rest

They don’t accept PayPal so you have to use a Credit or Debit card.

Re: Help me move my friends resting place

PostPosted: Sat Nov 25, 2017 8:00 pm
by Jwar
dubkitty wrote:how do i donate?


Yea for some reason it won't take Paypal, which I don't get.


If you are wanting to do that, I can also start a Paypal.me or whatever it is.


You guys are awesome btw.


Minor update.

I told his father about the Go Fund Me and now he's going to share it with his family.

Initially I did not as I thought it might embarrass him, but he's going to, so I'm happy. They can't offer much themselves, but want to chip in a few hundred bucks. I'm just happy to see him want to help. He seems like a good man and the times I met him he was extremely conflicted about his son. So maybe there's some stuff there that I never knew about. I know he loved his son though.

This campaign has been shared a ton.

One question.

Do you guys think it would look good if I donated my portion to Go Fund Me? Or maybe lowered the goal? I was wondering if it seemed a bit daunting.

Thanks!!

Adam

Re: Help me move my friends resting place

PostPosted: Sun Nov 26, 2017 1:07 pm
by toomanypedals
I'm new here and don't know JWAR, but glad to help if I can.

If you end up doing something that accepts PayPal I'll send $17 (drunken online shopping, bought a particular album that I already own - the site was kind enough to credit me back).

"nothing says tomorrow is a guarantee"

Re: Help me move my friends resting place

PostPosted: Mon Dec 04, 2017 5:38 pm
by vidret
Jesus Was a Robot wrote:
dubkitty wrote:how do i donate?


Yea for some reason it won't take Paypal, which I don't get.
fix this! making it easy for people that want to help you is essential!

Do you guys think it would look good if I donated my portion to Go Fund Me? Or maybe lowered the goal? I was wondering if it seemed a bit daunting.


if that's what the goal is, it can't be helped.

maybe lower it a bit, see if you reach it and then the rest will just have to come from family members, maybe pledge a small part each month?
if it takes two years then it takes two years, at least you'll then have a plan to get there.


honestly though, maybe have a deep talk with his dad, talk about why you'd want to cremate him and why you'd want to spread his ashes in japan. maybe he'll understand. maybe he's so set on this thing because he doesn't see the alternative.

I think my parents and friends probably wouldn't cremate me, but that's what I'd want. somewhere cool. and i'd force my best friend to spread the ashes, that lazy fuck. :lol:

talk to them jwar, either lower the goal + get a monthly pledge thing going around the families or convince the dad that cremation is the way to go. :hug:

Re: Help me move my friends resting place

PostPosted: Tue Dec 05, 2017 7:20 pm
by Jwar
That's some good solid points Vid. I would love to sprinkle him in Japan like you're saying. I'd bet my last dollar his dad would never go for it, but maybe I can approach him with that idea.

I wish that it wasn't so expensive. Had I not have had to spend 30k + in the last six months, I'd be able to do it on my own. :( Fucking real estate killed me this year. Who knows, maybe I'll get a big return?

Re: Help me move my friends resting place

PostPosted: Thu Mar 15, 2018 1:19 pm
by Jwar
So after a lot of thought and prayer, I don't know that I'll ever be able to make this happen. Which raises the question, is there something else I can do? I have about $430 dollars folks donated. Should I refund everyone and move on? Should I do something else in his honor? Any thoughts here? I just am not sure I'll ever get the money together to make this realistic. I honestly didn't think it'd be that hard, but that's part of the issue. I didn't think. I used emotion rather than logic because I miss my friend and wish we had reconnected before he passed. I'd love some input if anyone is willing to offer it.

Re: Help me move my friends resting place

PostPosted: Thu Mar 15, 2018 3:39 pm
by Chankgeez
:hug:

Re: Help me move my friends resting place

PostPosted: Wed Mar 21, 2018 1:26 am
by UglyCasanova
I'm sorry you couldn't make it work, buddy! I can only speak for myself, but giving the donations to a charity you think your friend would appreciate seems like a good way to honor him.

Re: Help me move my friends resting place

PostPosted: Wed Mar 21, 2018 9:33 am
by Jwar
Charity is a good idea! I didn't even think of that one. Hmm.. I'll have to look into local ones. Thanks for that!

Re: Help me move my friends resting place

PostPosted: Wed Apr 04, 2018 9:00 am
by Jwar
Ok, so after some investigating, I found a charity I think he would dig.

https://bandofangelskc.org/

It's a charity that is put on by a local music store actually, so kind of neat. I'm going to go in and actually talk to them and see what the best approach is (IE just money or an instrument). I'm assuming if I donate just money, they'd be able to spend it better than I, but you never know. I may be able to get a deal on a great instrument for them.