by Jwar » Sat May 27, 2017 7:32 pm
Went on vacation from Wed-Sat (today). Just got back. Man...I thought I'd have a blast, and don't get me wrong, I did have fun, it's just I got a horrible phone call on Thursday night. It was about 10:30 pm and my sister was calling. I looked at my phone and thought "meh, I'm not answering", then I thought "wait, why is she calling me this late? She never calls me at this hour".
So I answered and she's balling her eyes out. I can barely understand what she's saying, so I tell her to calm down and tell me what's going on. Turns out her husband had just attacked her.
We were on the phone for 30-45 minutes, the entire time he was following here and yelling at her and trying to justify things. He literally would not leave her alone.
So here's what happened. I know I'm an over sharer here sometimes, but I need support.
She talked was trying to talk to him about something that hurt her emotionally the night before while they were being intimate (I don't know what that means, that's how she worded it). He was laughing at her and mocking her. He does stuff like that a LOT and it's pretty childish. So she got upset and took his Xbox and tossed it out the front door. He called her several terrible names and she slapped him in the face, kicked at him and threw a toy truck at him.
So he pinned her to the ground and started smashing her face into the ground. He then grabbed both sides of her head, lifted it and slammed it into their hardwood floor four times in a row.
I'm not sure what got him off of her or if she kicked him while he was coming at her or anything. That's all I got.
I told her to call the police, she did not. I told her to tell him if he did not get away from her, I'd be driving the four hours back home right that minute and putting a bullet in him. I think he may have heard me because he went to a different room even though he was still running his mouth.
So he had just done this, her head hurts and she's scared. The kids are asleep, and she's just not thinking straight. I told her she could go to my house, she says she can't because she has insomnia and the kids are asleep and a million excuses. So I convince her to go into her room and lock the door. I said use any means you have to if he comes at you again. I told her to gouge at his eyes and kick him in the balls. That what they teach in rape prevention classes. If you hit hard enough he will not get up. Plus you've blinded him.
So, she was ok after that. I mean ok in the sense that he didn't attack her. She talked to her pastor (UGH), who told her that she could do what she wanted with this. Meaning, he released her, which is what she needs since she's mind numbingly religious.
She ignored him most of the day then talked to him and told him that if he ever touched her again she'd leave him.
So here's my problem as her brother. I'm not letting this go. No fucking way. I know she did something wrong by antagonizing him, but NOTHING justifies him slamming her head into the floor four times. I asked several different ways and times about this too, just in case it was a misunderstanding on my part in how it happened. It's clear his intent was to harm her and harm her bad.
Legally, I can't do anything. However, I don't know if I can stop myself from beating the living piss out of him. I'm not saying it in jest. I will beat the fuck out of him, I've almost had to do it before because he mouths off so bad. The last time I put his ass in a rear naked choke hold after slamming him to the ground. I'm not a violent guy by nature but I will not tolerate abuse of my loved ones.
What would you do?? I've talked to the police. There's nothing to be done if she doesn't press charges since it was two days ago now. She's going to let it slide. Fuck that. I cannot do it. I just need some input here I guess.
"I do not have the ability to think rationally 90% of the time and I also change my mind at the drop of a hat".
-JWAR